Removing and Replacing Limiting Beliefs

This post is a follow up to last week's What's Holding You Back? If you haven't read this you might find it beneficial to do so first.

Here's the link to What's Holding You Back?
http://turnaroundresources.blogspot.com/2009/04/quick-tip-whats-holding-you-back.html


Did you notice any limiting beliefs lurking around in your mind? If you did please write them down on a sheet of paper. Bringing them out into the open like this is the first step to disempowering them.

Let's start with anyone of your choice. Underline it, or write it out again underneath your list. Next, think of all the scenarios when you've had this thought. Write out all its "supporting evidence."

For example:
Belief: I never do anything right.
"Supporting evidence": Mum/Dad has always said so.
My husband/wife says so.
I left school without any qualifications.
I keep getting fired.

Now, it is important for you to realise that this "supporting evidence" is actually the result of your negative conditioning. If you replace this habit with some positive re-conditioning you should soon begin to see evidence of a more positive kind!

Resolve to give yourself another chance. Mentally put all this "evidence" into a box and burn it up. In reality, this translates as deciding not to listen to it, think on it or believe it. It is no longer true.

Next, think of the situation as you would like to see it

For example:

I always do things right.

Whenever you get the chance, repeat this new belief to yourself, over and over again. Whenever people or situations try to tell you that you never do anything right, stop them. We're talking about your wellbeing here. Stop the thoughts immediately. Ask the people to stop. Walk away if you must.

You became negative by thinking on negative thoughts and listening to negative talk. In the same way you will become positive by listening to positive words and thoughts. Speak to yourself. It's called self-talk. Don't wait for others to affirm you, or circumstances to agree with you. Just keep self-talking yourself positively. This isn't some over-hyped trick. It is actually the way we form our beliefs. So far, self-talking may have worked against you. Now let's make it work for you.
Remember though, you may have been listening to negativity all your life. It could therefore take a while to counteract and replace it. But do keep at it because it works.

Write out your new positive belief. If possible, post it where you will see it everyday. Do this for all of the limiting beliefs on your list. Over time you will notice them lose their grip and slide away. The new empowering beliefs will take hold and replace them. Then you should begin to notice yourself follow through with the corresponding positive action.

If you'd like, you can email me your limiting beliefs and the empowering ones you'd like to replace them with. If you find this too much to do on your own, why not try out a coaching session with me. The first one is free! Just email me now and we can arrange a session.

Next week, on Monday 4th May, I'll post an exercise to help boost your self-image. You won't want to miss it! Remember to invite your friends.

All the very best,

Oma